Friday, February 26, 2010

Why Am I Having Difficulty Making Myself Go To School

By Willis Micheals

First have a think about WHY you don't want to go to school. What is stopping you from going there? Or is something holding you back at home? Have a think about whether there are problems with people, teachers, school friends (or lack of them), someone else, etc. How about schoolwork? Have a think about whether you are finding schoolwork too easy and maybe getting bored? Or perhaps the work is too hard, or you have missed out on something and can't catch up? Maybe you have difficulty completing homework or projects? Are you having difficulty studying for exams? Alternatively, are there problems at home that are on your mind or that mean you feel you have to be at home instead of school?

Writing down your likes and dislikes about going to school can be helpful. It means you can work out what any difficulties might be so you can work on those. And you can see which things you like and improve on those too. Not going to school can mean missing out on some good stuff. Learning how to get with other people is an important lesson to learn. And even mixing with other people just on a daily basis can help you learn about that, almost without having to think about it. Discussion and debate with your peer group is important in developing your own thoughts on life, your own value system and testing out friendships and relationships of many kinds, some, or many, of which may last your whole life.

Physical exercise is also important, with team games helping you to learn lessons that will serve you well in later work, as well as helping to keep you healthy. Of course, you don't have to go to school to obtain these benefits. They can also be found elsewhere. But that often means making a special effort to find something that provides these benefits. On the negative side, taking subjects you hate or don't understand can be boring.

Turning round a negative aspect to a positive one usually involves action of some kind but we often find it difficult to make the changes in our behaviour and lifestyle that we should because the pain of change is here and now, while the promised future reward seems like pie in the sky. Taking action means deciding on a goal and starting to work towards it. Decide on a goal to work towards. This must be a measurable goal, something you can say you either did or did not reach.

If your attendance record is not good, you could make your goal to be to improve that by a certain amount. For instance if you have only attended school for 50% of last term, your goal might be to attend for 75% (three quarters) of the time next term. Of course, just attending school may not be the only goal you want to achieve. Perhaps you want to pass your exams or pass them with a good mark. You might want to hand in homework on time or submit coursework. These are all measurable goals.

If you need to improve your school marks, again you need to set achievable goals and keep at them. This might include a goal of learning 10 spellings or vocabulary words a day. Or it might mean doing an extra amount of homework each day. If you want to improve your people skills, you could join a club and set a goal of attending weekly and taking part in something. If you already belong to a club, you might set a goal of doing some work in the club, such as organising an event. - 2364

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